Tag You Are It – The Problem Is You May Not Want to Be Tagged


Tag you are it!  The problem is you may not want to be tagged.

When we were kids playing in the yard or on the playground we all played tag.  It was fun.  Freeze tag was my favorite and you couldn’t move until someone came along and “unfroze” you.

Tag You Are It

Well we are not kids any longer and there is a new game of tag.  It happens on Facebook and it has an entirely different meaning.

This is the Facebook definition of it:

When I tag someone in a photo, post or other content, who can see it?

When you tag someone, that content (ex: photo, post) may be shared with the person tagged and their friends. This means that if you haven’t already included their friends in the audience, their friends may now be able to see it. For example, if you tag Jane in a photo shared with your friends, the audience expands to Friends (+) to include your friends and Jane’s.

If you don’t want your photo, post or other content to be visible to the friends of the person tagged, you can turn this setting off for each post when you post it. To do this, click the audience selector next to the story, select Custom, and uncheck the Friends of those tagged and event guests box.

The audience also expands to Friends (+) when others tag your post or photo. Learn how to approve or dismiss tags that friends add to your posts before they appear on Facebook.

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Unless the person tagging you in their post actually does what the instructions say that post is visible to all the friends of the person who is posting and ALL your friends.I use tagging to put my friend’s names in lights.  I tag people when they have a birthday, when something good happens to them, and when I want to make sure they see a post.  Tagging, when used appropriately, is a great tool.

However there is the other side of the tagging coin,  Let’s think about what tagging does again.  It calls attention to you, your name, your wall, and it can be a good thing but it can also be a bad thing.

Let’s say someone tags you in a post and it isn’t a flattering tag.  Maybe you were some where you were not supposed to be.  Maybe you were with someone you were not supposed to be with.  Maybe someone thought they were just being clever calling attention to your name, when in reality their cleverness was in poor taste.

Some of the biggest thought leaders in social media keep their posts neutral, they don’t tag their friends, and they walk the fine line of social media etiquette.

Unfortunately there are people who have not learned “the rules” on social media and they post and tag people without thinking of the ramifications of that post.

My clients get it.  They know if I see an inappropriate post I will take it down before we need to do damage control.  They don’t tag people either without thinking about it first.  I taught them that.

Right now I guarantee you we all know someone who needs to be sitting in the corner wearing a dunce cap!

dunce cap

Just be careful when you tag people because when you use it the wrong way people can get hurt.  Have you ever been tagged inappropriately?


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