I go back and forth on this all the time with people. I must be the weakest link in the chain of people I know, because I just get cold feet when it comes to un-friending a person from my Facebook account.
I asked several people with high friend counts recently what the criteria is that they use to make this decision. Mike M told me he follows his gut for some people, and he also purges his lists of MLM-ers and “get rich quick” types.
Christine E told me she removes people she doesn’t really know who jam up her news feed and that was after I asked her why she deleted me. Seriously. In fairness to her, I get it. I post a lot. I experiment with my postings too. Sometimes I post to the public. Other times I just post to friends. Then I will customize and post to specific lists, and that usually means hiding my post from my “None of Your Business” list. Christine and I do not know each other well, and in kidding around about it she sent me a friend request, but I in turn put her on my “None of Your Business” list and she rarely gets my updates on her newsfeed. I actually added two more people to this list today because I knew in listening to them I was showing up too much.
I thought about this and decided it was time to start to use my lists more often. I have over 850 friends, and they are all on a list, but posting to a specific list becomes a chore after a while so I get lazy and let the updates fall where they may.
However the other day I started looking at all 856 friends and I realized that some of these people have to go. That started the nightmare of who should stay and who should go, and being that I am in business, I subscribe to the reasoning that if I choose the wrong person, I may have just lost a business opportunity. You never know who knows whom and that is why I hesitate when it comes to removing a friend.
I prefer to unsubscribe if I have that option or to hide that person entirely.
I have not un-friended anyone in a long time. These are my reasons:
- It hurts people’s feelings
- I don’t know who they might know
- I live in a smaller town
- If I make the wrong choice it could kill me in the world of networking.
- I check you out, you pass my criteria, then you send me pictures of naked women at a strip club.
- I check you out then you tell me “I really want to be friends with your husband, he’s hot.”
- You have a huge cause and it is ALL you talk about and it is disgusting.
- You complain all the time, every day about your mother, saying horrible things about her – I am not your therapist.